And many might think - why is she making such a big deal? Well it's cause of this... I soooo regret not traveling. AND I pray I wont also regret not making this trip. I felt like it was a 2nd chance given our huge regret not meeting her. BUT Andrew comes first and even tho I know knowledge is power I dont want to jeapordize the huge strides he's made.
So this package and the subsequent questions I will send to Children's Home early next week (as someone who is bilingual will sit down with her and ask questions on our behalf) are so very important. First and foremost to give the woman/family who gave our son his first sense of security in this world, an update. I personally, could not do what she does and OMG.... I just admire these women so much. AND I know she did an awesome job.. My son wants nothing more than to be in our arms (ok this is kind of the prob :) cause he ofen would like to be surgically attached)... but truly is so loving, giving (feeding us, bringing us things.. just a real sweetie), but I also know he grieved sooo hard. The other night he woke, screaming and reverted to that sobbing, grieving cry we've heard a lot. I suspect he was dreaming. He couldnt get back to sleep for about an hour and had to be wrapped in my arms.
So yes, getting all this together, was HUGE for us. I'm happy it's off but would like to ask all of you this.. if you've read this blog you know his transition has been hard. Much (I now believe) is his sensitive nature/temperment. I also believe he's scary smart (and not just trying to be a proud mom.. he gets stuff I've not seen a lot of children his age "get" esp given his prematurity). ANd he's almost 2! I've asked her to compare him to others she's had - was he fussy, not.. somewhere in middle.. ? I asked lots of Q's re: sleep. I asked about what the "hand-off" to escort was like (yes.. sorry, not trying to offend, but this is one of those responses I know will evoke the nails down the chalkboard reaction out of me.. he needed us so and we made the wrong decision). I've got several others, but if you have any thoughts.. things you could ask after the fact, once home - what would you ask? I'd sooo love to hear! Thx! :)
PS: the shutterfly book I ordered is awesome - I LOVE the quality. It was hard since I digi scrap and couldnt move things exactly like I wanted but it was super fast and inexpensive. the cover I ordered was slightly padded and looked like a bound book.. GREAT CS. Can't say enough for this company..
And One True Media - you all know I'm a fan.. if you havent seen what a DVD (in case) looks like this is it! And what a difference you get watching on your TV or computer vs, on the one true media site (just that clarity is so much better)
Made a very quick card for her - literally 15 min! - yeah. it shows ! But hey, those pre-made card sets are just for this type of thing and I think they're great! :)
1 comments:
Leigh - all looks great. Andrew's foster mother will love it all. We didn't travel for Catherine, but Steve was able to visit her while in Korea on business, so that helped. Only Steve traveled for Max. Then, last year, we connected all of the dots and traveled to Korea and spent time with both families and that is what helped bring it all full circle for me. Maybe you can take Andrew back for a visit down the road. Closure is not the right word, but the trip gave me a peace that I didn't know I was missing. And the foster families were delighted to see Catherine and Max again.
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